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The familiar holiday image of matching pyjamas, big family dinners, and joyful gatherings can be comforting, but it doesn’t reflect everyone’s reality. Many people navigate complicated family dynamics, long distances, …
For Gay Men Spending The Holidays Away From Biological Family Read More
If you scroll through Instagram, TikTok, X, or open a grid-based dating app like Grindr or Jack’d, you could be forgiven for thinking gay culture has become one endless loop …
Why It Looks Like Being Gay Is All About Sex Right Now Read More
By Daniel Nkado for dnbstories.com. Trigger note: This article discusses sexual rejection and stigma. If any section feels distressing, consider pausing and reaching out to a trusted person or professional …
How to Handle Sexual Rejection as a Gay Man: A Practical Framework Read More
By Daniel Nkado. In queer dating and relationships, labels like top and bottom help people communicate what they enjoy. But when these terms solidify into permanent identities—dictating what someone “should” …
Top vs. Bottom: 8 Ways Rigid Roles Hurt Gay & Bi Men—Why Fluidity Matters Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Many gay men describe feeling a different kind of fatigue — a deep, persistent exhaustion that does not come from doing more work. It’s more like being …
Queer Burnout is real: How minority stress leaves gay men exhausted Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Gay men and the concept of defensive masculinity Many gay men learn early in life through teasing and societal pressure that being “feminine” invites shame. So they …
Masc4Masc: Why many gay men worship ‘macho’ men 💪🏾 Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Why do some gay men command the runway in heels while others play football like the game was designed for them? Anyone who’s met a range of …
Why some gay men act ‘masc’ or ‘fem’ — Science explains Read More
By Daniel Nkado. One troubling pattern I’ve observed about modern gay culture is the gendering of sex roles—treating “top” and “bottom” as if they’re fixed gender identities rather than fluid …
Dear Gay Men in 2025: You are not a Top, or a Bottom, or a Label Read More
A real interview with a homophobic Nigerian man. The first version of this article appeared with the interviewee’s identity. However, this consent was later revoked following people’s reactions to the …
Homophobic Nigerian man shares why he can’t stand gay people Read More