African and Black Queer Experience and Public Education
A safe, nonjudgmental space offering sexual health guides for Black queer men — covering PnP safety, PrEP, stigma, pelvic pain, and holistic wellbeing.
A comparative analysis of LGBTQ+ life in Nigeria vs. the UK. A detailed exploration of how safety cancels intimacy and why dating apps replace community with consumption in low-risk contexts. …
Nigeria vs. UK Queer Life — How Safety Cancels Intimacy Read More
Black gay spaces—on dating apps, in nightlife, in friendship circles, and across diaspora community networks—are often imagined as places of refuge. Yet the places we expect to be sanctuaries can …
Why Some Black Gay Spaces Feel Unsafe —How to Rebuild Trust Read More
It’s Not “Toxic”—It’s Survival. When people talk about internal hierarchies among Black gay and bisexual men, they are usually describing the informal ranking systems that dominate dating apps, friendship circles, …
Why Internal Hierarchies Are So Common Among Black Gay Men Read More
A reader recently shared: “I’m with someone I truly love. We’re deeply attracted to each other and have amazing sex. I want this to last—not in the short-term sense people …
Black Gay Men: After Love, Sex, and Attraction, What Next? Read More
Dating as a Black gay man in London can feel like navigating a maze of contradictory expectations. From the apps that reduce men to bodies and labels, and conversations where …
Black Gay Men in London: Forget Sexiness & Top/Bottom — Seek This First Read More
Black Gay Couples and the ‘Wait Time’ Myth For many Black gay couples considering adoption, one fear looms larger than the rest: “We’ll never be chosen.” This belief circulates globally—across …
Black Gay Couples and Adoption: Eligibility and Wait Times Read More
It can feel like hard-won victories slipping away. LGBTQ+ elders are facing a new crisis: the return to the closet in old age. After surviving criminalisation, police raids, the AIDS …
Why Black Gay Elders Are Re-Closeting: UK vs Nigeria Comparison Read More
Strong But Not Smart: The Creation of a Myth American slavery promoted a harmful narrative that defined Black men’s worth by physical strength rather than intellect. The “strong bodies, weak …
Impact of Slavery on Black Masculinity and Black Gay Desire Read More
‘Hood’ Stereotype in Black Gay Culture While other definitions exist, in queer discourse and LGBTQ+ digital spaces, the term “hood” takes on a specific, troubling meaning. “Hood” in gay culture …
How ‘Hood’ and ‘DL’ Performance Harms Black Gay Men Read More
Marriage is built on assumptions of honesty and shared reality. When a woman discovers that key truths were withheld, it can shatter that reality and cause lasting harm. Wives are …
Gay Men Marrying Women: The Risks of Not Telling Her Read More
Sex is supposed to be a moment of connection—where you are fully in your body, fully feeling rather than thinking. But sometimes, especially under pressure, your mind flips into “observer …
Why Many Black Gay Men Struggle With Spectatoring During Sex Read More
⚠️ Content Note: This article addresses erectile dysfunction, stigma, and mental health in gay men. Sensitive themes are discussed—please proceed with care. Erectile dysfunction (ED)—difficulty getting or keeping an erection …
How Internalised Stigma Fuels Erectile Issues in Black Gay Men Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Dear Brothers, As 2025 comes to an end and we look toward 2026, this message is for my fellow Black queer men—especially those of us who navigate …
Brother to Brother: Chemsex, PnP & HnH Safety for Black Gay Men Read More
By Daniel Nkado for dnbstories.com. Trigger note: This article discusses sexual rejection and stigma. If any section feels distressing, consider pausing and reaching out to a trusted person or professional …
How to Handle Sexual Rejection as a Gay Man: A Practical Framework Read More
by Gloria Ezeh Bottom-shaming is a set of words, jokes, profiles, and behaviours that demean receptive anal sex and the men who enjoy it. It shows up everywhere: in hookups …
How bottom‑shaming affects us all: Real-life examples and ways to end it Read More
by DNB editors. Let’s be honest: the terms “Top” and “Bottom” are cute until they start feeling like job titles. Sure, they help describe what you’re into, but when labels …
Role-flipping— A practical guide to versatile gay sex Read More
The pleasure in bottoming does not come from endurance. It comes from control and relaxation. The “Control + Relax” technique is a smart body and mind approach that uses muscle …
Control-Relax Tip: A guide to pain-free bottoming for all men Read More
It seems every year — or less — a segment of the Black gay community discovers a new trend to turn into fashion and use as another tool for social …
Black Gay Men, Stop Clenching and Relax — ‘Tight Hole’ is a Myth Read More
In the quiet corners of the human heart, where feelings begin, and identities take root, few questions stir as much curiosity—and confusion—as this: Can a straight person ever become gay, …
The Big Question: Can A Straight Person Ever Become Gay? Read More
One troubling pattern I’ve observed about modern gay culture is the gendering of sex roles—treating “top” and “bottom” as if they’re fixed gender identities rather than fluid sexual preferences. And …
Dear Gay Men in 2025: You are not a Top, or a Bottom, or a Label Read More