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For many gay and bisexual men, the desire for receptive anal sex (bottoming) is thwarted by physical pain, panic, or an inability to “relax.” This is often described as Somatic …
Pelvic Armouring—How it Makes Bottoming Harder for Gay & Bi men Read More
By DNB Editors. On November 10, 2025, the U.S. Supreme Court delivered a quiet but powerful win for marriage equality: the Court declined to hear former Kentucky county clerk Kim …
SCOTUS Upholding Marriage Equality—What It Means For Queer People Read More
By Daniel Nkado It was October 2012. I was barely 20. I travelled to Umuahia to meet a man I had met on Manjam. Manjam was what Grindr is now—a …
From Sandal to Scandal: The Origin and Dark Evolution of ‘Kito’ Read More
By Golden Madu and Daniel Nkado Content warning: This article contains descriptions of physical violence, sexual assault, extortion, and homophobic hate crimes. Reader discretion advised. “He seemed so genuine. We …
Kito Nightmare: 3 Nigerian Gay Men Recount Dating-App Ordeals Read More
by Daniel Nkado. Ageing is a universal experience, but how we navigate it can vary dramatically based on our identities and societal expectations. Have you ever wondered why some men …
How Straight and Gay Men Age Differently: A Cultural Exploration Read More
Love from the DNB family. For every member of the Black and African queer community—whether you’re in Lagos, Nairobi, Accra, Johannesburg, London, New York, Texas, or anywhere in the world—creativity …
Finding Joy and Healing Through Art—A Love Letter to Black Queer People Read More
by DNB editorial team. As Griff croons in her haunting track Earl Grey Tea: “You’re so scared you’re aging faster / So you drink Earl Grey tea ’cause you heard …
Why gay men fear ageing — And how we can rewrite the story 🖤❤️ Read More
by Great Maxwell Warning: This piece contains accounts of forced religious “deliverance,” spiritual coercion, and sexual abuse that may be triggering. If you are in an unsafe situation, currently distressed, …
Coming out as gay in Nigeria: Surviving religious conversion therapy Read More
Pretty Boma, born Boma Kalio, is a 25-year-old trans Nigerian woman from Okrika in Rivers State, Nigeria. Her brave journey of self-discovery began early. At just 8 years old, she …
Finding affirming healthcare in Nigeria: A trans woman’s brave story Read More
by Daniel Nkado Many gay men describe feeling a different kind of fatigue — a deep, persistent exhaustion that does not come from doing more work. It’s more like being …
Queer Burnout is real: How minority stress leaves gay men exhausted Read More
One commonly searched question that has continued to shock data experts is: “Is my husband gay?” The phenomenon is significant because it reveals how anonymity allows people to voice high-stakes …
Is my husband gay? Why millions of women still search this online Read More
In addition to being one of the most-listened-to singers of her time, Taylor Swift also boasts one of the most passionate fanbases in the entertainment world—affectionately known as Swifties. From …
Why Swifties Stay Loyal—Fans share why they love Taylor Swift Read More
by DNB Editors. High self-esteem doesn’t look the same for everyone, and for gay men, it is often shaped by personal experiences of surviving stigma, community, and personal history. This …
How to spot high self-esteem in gay men and build yours Read More
by Gloria Ezeh Bottom-shaming is a set of words, jokes, profiles, and behaviours that demean receptive anal sex and the men who enjoy it. It shows up everywhere: in hookups …
How bottom‑shaming affects us all: Real-life examples and ways to end it Read More
by DNB editors. Let’s be honest: the terms “Top” and “Bottom” are cute until they start feeling like job titles. Sure, they help describe what you’re into, but when labels …
Role-flipping— A practical guide to versatile gay sex Read More
‘DL’ once meant hidden. Now it’s a whole genre! 🎭 by Daniel Nkado “DL” stands for “down-low,” a term describing men—often Black or Latino men—who publicly present as straight but …
DL Posing: How some gay men monetise down‑low identity for gain Read More
by Daniel Nkado The gay man’s relentless pursuit of the “macho image” stems less from genuine desire and more from fear and anxiety. The fear of appearing “too feminine” fuels …
Masc4Masc: Why gay men worship ‘macho’ men 💪🏾 Read More
Like two neighbours living in the same building and fighting about everything, but secretly in love, Nigeria and Ghana have been at war with each other since Anansi’s head became …
Forget Ghana & Naija Jollof – Here’s the real food war and Ghana wins! Read More
The pleasure in bottoming does not come from endurance. It comes from control and relaxation. The “Control + Relax” technique is a smart body and mind approach that uses muscle …
Control-Relax Tip: A guide to pain-free bottoming for all men Read More
by Daniel Nkado Why do some gay men command the runway in heels while others play football like the game was designed for them? Anyone who’s met a range of …
Why some gay men act ‘masc’ or ‘fem’ — Science explains Read More
by Daniel Nkado Some songs make you dance. Others make you remember. For millennials, Owl City and Carly Rae Jepsen’s “Good Time” does both — a happy song that somehow …
This Happy Song is so Nostalgic, it Makes Millennials Cry Read More
by Daniel Nkado It seems every year — or less — a segment of the Black gay community discovers a new trend to turn into fashion and use as another …
Black Gay Men, Stop Clenching and Relax — ‘Tight Hole’ is a Myth Read More
by Daniel Nkado In the quiet corners of the human heart, where feelings begin and identities take root, few questions stir as much curiosity—and confusion—as this: Can a straight person …
The Big Question: Can A Straight Person Ever Become Gay? Read More
by Daniel Nkado We’re all here for Taylor’s return to glam! Inspired by her Eras Tour success and her blossoming romance with Travis Kelce, Taylor Swift’s 12th studio album, The …
The Life of a Showgirl Review: fun, flashy—a little flawed Read More
Love has always been one of life’s greatest mysteries. It drives art, songs, and heartbreak stories across the world. But beneath all the emotions and poetry lies a simple question …
Does it really matter why you love someone? MAYBE! Read More
by Daniel Nkado For many young gay men today, accepting themselves or even coming out is only the beginning. Beyond acceptance from family and society, there’s another world to face: …
Young Gays and the Pressure of Managing Reputation Within the Community Read More
Netflix’s recent miniseries Wayward, created by Mae Martin and starring Toni Collette, got people talking about the dark side of “troubled teen” programs. The show takes place at a fictional …
How Wayward’s ‘Hot Seat’ idea can help real relationships Read More
Do West African men really have “better” genetics for muscle? In some ways, yes — genetic traits like fast-twitch dominance provide a slight head start. But while it’s true that …
Why West African men have more muscle – Role of genetics, diet, lifestyle, explained Read More
You finally prove your idea works — and suddenly everyone else wants in. Starting a business in the UK today feels a lot like screaming into a storm. You have …
Starting a new VIABLE business in the UK: Your success is your first killer Read More
The last decade has given horror fans unforgettable monsters — Gabriel from Malignant, the Babadook, the Tethered in Us, and the Entity from It Follows. But one creature may top …
Why the Smile Entity is the Creepiest Horror Monster of the Last Decade Read More
Who is Angela Deem, aka ‘Angela Obey Who?’ Angela Deem is a cast member of the TLC reality show “90 Day Fiancé”, who famously asked, “Obey who?” during her wedding …
Where is Angela Deem, aka ‘Angela Obey Who’, right now? Read More
by Daniel Nkado One troubling pattern I’ve observed about modern gay culture is the gendering of sex roles—treating “top” and “bottom” as if they’re fixed gender identities rather than fluid …
Dear Gay Men in 2025: You are not a Top, or a Bottom, or a Label Read More
Every small business owner knows this feeling: your apartment is slowly turning into a warehouse, with boxes on the couch, on the kitchen table, and even on the hallway floor. …
Startup on the Couch vs. Professional Warehouse: When It’s Time to Delegate Logistics Read More
by Staff writer Warning: This article contains annoying elements of discomfort called “spoilers”. Thandie Newton (credited as Thandiwe Newton, after reverting to her original name spelling in 2021) plays Dr. …
All about Thandie Newton’s role in Wednesday Season 2 Read More
by Daniel Nkado I sincerely apologise for the click-b8. The amount I have made so far is not up to £15K (yet) — around the corners of £8K to be …
How I earned £15K from a cool business I started this year Read More
by Daniel Nkado In the neon-drenched sprawl of New London, 3020, the air hummed with the electric buzz of hovercars and the synthetic laughter of holograms. The city was a …
Fiction: The Last Top in 3020 Read More
Key Points London Black Pride 2025, also known as UK Black Pride, is a significant event as it is celebrating its 20th anniversary on Sunday, 10 August 2025, at Queen …
Full details of 2025 UK Black Pride in London: Date, Venue, Time, etc Read More
Meremere N’ihu – Kwampiti N’azu is an old Igbo adage. It literally translates to “Soft in the front – war at the back”. Other metaphorical speculations exist, but in Igbo …
Meremere N’ihu – Kwampiti N’azu – A Cherished Igbo Adage Read More
Great sex can show itself in some surprising ways! It doesn’t like to be hidden. Based on known psychological and physiological studies on the effects of sexual satisfaction, adults often …
13 unconventional signs someone is having great sex Read More
by Daniel Nkado Nigerians are mostly not known to be very flexible when it comes to trying new cuisine. This lack of interest may even be more pronounced in Igbos, …
Why some Igbo people are slow to try new foods Read More
Here’s what the two AI chatbots have to say: GROK: Whether Grok (specifically Grok 3, as I’m built by xAI) is “better” than ChatGPT depends on what you’re looking for—there’s …
Is Grok AI better than ChatGPT? – Check out the answer! Read More
The Nigerian Pidgin language can be confusing to speakers of standard English because it often uses English words that take on completely different meanings in the context of their usage …
‘No Dey Whine Me’ – true meaning of the Nigerian Pidgin phrase Read More
Traders are constantly seeking platforms that offer robust tools and flexibility to enhance their trading strategies. MetaTrader 5 (MT5) stands out as a comprehensive solution, attracting traders with its advanced …
Why Traders Choose MT5: Unleashing the Power of Advanced Trading Read More
Nosferatu (2024) is an American gothic horror film written and directed by Robert Eggers. It is a remake of the 1922 silent film Nosferatu: A Symphony of Horror. In the …
How did Nosferatu die in 2024 film? Read More
Taylor Swift has dated several high-profile men, and many of her relationships have inspired her music. Swift has over the course of her career garnered a reputation (no pun intended) …
All Taylor Swift’s boyfriends and the songs they inspired Read More
Donald Trump pledged to carry out the largest deportation program in U.S. history if reelected. This means around 11 million undocumented migrants, non-citizens and asylum seekers now face being deported …
Donald Trump’s Day One: 11 million immigrants to be deported Read More
Warning: This article may contain annoying elements called spoilers. In the story of Wicked by Gregory Maguire and its stage and film musical adaptation, Fiyero and Elphaba Thropp do not …
Did Fiyero marry Elphaba in the ‘Wicked’? Read More
What is SEO? To explain SEO to a five-year-old: SEO is like making your favourite toy easy to find in a large toy store. Imagine you have a toy car, …
10 fun things about doing SEO in 2025 (for African & Nigerian bloggers) Read More
Indeed Flex is a UK-based platform that connects job seekers with temporary work opportunities across various industries, including hospitality, healthcare, and warehousing. It offers flexibility for workers and a streamlined …
How does Indeed Flex work in the UK? Read More
Detty December is a popular term in Nigeria that describes the festive and vibrant celebrations throughout December, especially in major cities like Lagos, Abuja, and Port Harcourt. It’s a time …
Everything To Know About Detty December In Nigeria Read More
When children explore the world of words through reading they unlock new possibilities in communication and self-expression. E-books provide a flexible way for young readers to engage with texts that …
How E-Books Can Help Kids Build Vocabulary and Language Skills Read More
Micro-influencers are social media personalities with a follower count typically between 10,000 to 100,000. They are known for their niche focus, high engagement rates, and authentic content. Unlike celebrities or …
25 UK micro-influencers you need to know Read More
Yes, Wordle is played in Nigeria! As a globally popular online word game, Wordle has gained a significant following in various countries, including Nigeria. People enjoy it as a daily …
Is Wordle played in Nigeria? Read More
For there to be a female pope, there has to be a female priest first! The Catholic Church’s current doctrine does not permit women to be ordained as priests, which …
Is there ever going to be a female pope? Read More
RuPaul Andre Charles, widely known as RuPaul, is an iconic American drag queen, singer, actor, model, and television host. Born on November 17, 1960, in San Diego, California, RuPaul is …
The amazing life of RuPaul – World’s most popular drag queen Read More
Jennifer Pfautch, also known as Jae Hardwick, is a publicist, producer, and motivational speaker widely recognized as the wife of actor Omari Hardwick. Pfautch’s husband, Omari Hardwick is known for …
Who is Jennifer Pfautch – Omari Hardwick’s wife? Read More
History is full of examples of ordinary people who have profoundly changed the world through their courage, ingenuity, and determination. These individuals remind us that anyone, no matter how “ordinary,” …
10 ordinary people that changed the world Read More
For generations, African-Americans have navigated journeys toward empowerment, mobility, and independence in various forms. Whether it’s physical movement through cities and towns or metaphorical movement through career and societal advancements, …
Exploring Different Ways to Stay On the Move Read More
American basketball player Paul George is married to Daniela Rajic. The couple tied the knot in June 2022 after several years of dating. Daniela Rajic is a model and entrepreneur, …
All about NBA Paul George’s wife – Daniela Rajic – and kids Read More
No Afrobeats? No gym! Here are 10 high-energy Afrobeats songs that are perfect for powering through your gym workout. These tracks blend infectious rhythms, motivating beats, and full Naija man …
10 Afrobeats songs to spice up your gym sessions in 2024 Read More