African and Black Queer Experience and Public Education
Choosing ‘Easy to Be Around’ Over Honest Feeling In a world that often demands Black queer men be palatable, agreeable, and emotionally accommodating in order to be accepted, respected, or …
5 Qualities That Predict Safer Black Queer Relationships Read More
Intro: A Practical Doctrine for One-to-One Conflict Interpersonal conflict is inevitable, but responding under pressure often makes it worse. In environments shaped by status, hierarchy, restraint, and indirect dominance, generic …
Masculinity Conflict Framework (MCF): When to Repair or Lock Read More
“And with social visibility, I don’t have that much need for sexual visibility anymore.”—A Black gay man living in Canada. Humans share a core emotional need to be seen as …
Social vs Sexual Visibility: Why Being Seen Changes Sex for Gay Men Read More
The familiar holiday image of matching pyjamas, big family dinners, and joyful gatherings can be comforting, but it doesn’t reflect everyone’s reality. Many people navigate complicated family dynamics, long distances, …
For Gay Men Spending The Holidays Away From Biological Family Read More
On dating apps, at parties, and inside queer community spaces, Black gay men frequently encounter racialised fetishisation—the experience of being approached through stereotypes rather than being met as a full …
Want to Date Black Gay Men Without Fetishising Them? Here’s How Read More
By Daniel Nkado. In my Nigerian voice: I knew we were finished the moment I saw the language of the therapist’s office enter gay dating culture. 🙆🏾♂️😊 Terms like gaslighting, …
Gaslighting or Boundaries: Is Therapy Speak Ruining Gay Dating Today? Read More
In Nigeria, the common street language for wooing a woman is “toasting”. Example: “He’s been toasting her for months now” means he’s been trying to gain her love for months. …
A wild encounter with a Nigerian man trying to ‘toast’ (woo) me Read More