Building queer futures through story, culture, and community.
The familiar holiday image of matching pyjamas, big family dinners, and joyful gatherings can be comforting, but it doesn’t reflect everyone’s reality. Many people navigate complicated family dynamics, long distances, …
For Gay Men Spending The Holidays Away From Biological Family Read More
If you scroll through Instagram, TikTok, X, or open a grid-based dating app like Grindr or Jack’d, you could be forgiven for thinking gay culture has become one endless loop …
Why It Looks Like Being Gay Is All About Sex Right Now Read More
Sex is supposed to be a moment of connection—where you are fully in your body, fully feeling rather than thinking. But sometimes, especially under pressure, your mind flips into “observer …
Why Many Black Gay Men Struggle With Spectatoring During Sex Read More
Malik’s phone lit up with messages the way it always did—fire emojis, quick compliments, the same shorthand that reduced him to a silhouette. He had just posted a photo from …
Trade vs. Thinker: The Cost of Valuing Black Bodies Over Black Minds Read More
By Daniel Nkado for dnbstories.com. In gay culture, “top,” “bottom,” and “vers” were never meant to be social identities or personality types. They were supposed to be simple communication tools …
The Power of Screaming ‘I’m a Power Bottom Lesbian’ as a Black Gay Man Read More
By Daniel Nkado. In queer dating and relationships, labels like top and bottom help people communicate what they enjoy. But when these terms solidify into permanent identities—dictating what someone “should” …
Top vs. Bottom: 8 Ways Rigid Roles Hurt Gay & Bi Men—Why Fluidity Matters Read More
By Daniel Nkado. In my Nigerian voice: I knew we were finished the moment I saw the language of the therapist’s office enter gay dating culture. 🙆🏾♂️😊 Terms like gaslighting, …
Gaslighting or Boundaries: Is Therapy Speak Ruining Gay Dating Today? Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Finding a long-term romantic partner presents difficulties for most people today. However, for gay and bisexual men, these challenges are compounded by barriers that extend beyond the …
Why gay dating feels impossible today: 6 science-backed reasons Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Ageing is a universal experience, but how we navigate it can vary dramatically based on our identities and societal expectations. Have you ever wondered why some men …
How Straight and Gay Men Age Differently: A Cultural Exploration Read More