African and Black Queer Experience and Public Education
A reader recently shared: “I’m with someone I truly love. We’re deeply attracted to each other and have amazing sex. I want this to last—not in the short-term sense people …
Black Gay Men: After Love, Sex, and Attraction, What Next? Read More
It can feel like hard-won victories slipping away. LGBTQ+ elders are facing a new crisis: the return to the closet in old age. After surviving criminalisation, police raids, the AIDS …
Why Black Gay Elders Are Re-Closeting: UK vs Nigeria Comparison Read More
Strong But Not Smart: The Creation of a Myth American slavery promoted a harmful narrative that defined Black men’s worth by physical strength rather than intellect. The “strong bodies, weak …
Impact of Slavery on Black Masculinity and Black Gay Desire Read More
‘Hood’ Stereotype in Black Gay Culture While other definitions exist, in queer discourse and LGBTQ+ digital spaces, the term “hood” takes on a specific, troubling meaning. “Hood” in gay culture …
How ‘Hood’ and ‘DL’ Performance Harms Black Gay Men Read More
Introduction—Rethinking the Western Closet Paradigm Western culture often portrays “coming out of the closet” as a transformative experience for gay men—a narrative promoted by the media, popular culture, and mainstream …
Why Black Gay Men Don’t Have to ‘Come Out’ Like Other Races Read More
As Black gay men, we navigate a world layered with intersecting oppressions—racism from broader society and homophobia within our own racial communities. Knowing this, one would think that any gathering …
How Black Gay Men Promote Stigma That Comes Back To Hurt Us Read More
Sex is supposed to be a moment of connection—where you are fully in your body, fully feeling rather than thinking. But sometimes, especially under pressure, your mind flips into “observer …
Why Many Black Gay Men Struggle With Spectatoring During Sex Read More
On dating apps, at parties, and inside queer community spaces, Black gay men frequently encounter racialised fetishisation—the experience of being approached through stereotypes rather than being met as a full …
Want to Date Black Gay Men Without Fetishising Them? Here’s How Read More
Malik’s phone lit up with messages the way it always did—fire emojis, quick compliments, the same shorthand that reduced him to a silhouette. He had just posted a photo from …
Trade vs. Thinker: The Cost of Valuing Black Bodies Over Black Minds Read More
In gay culture, “top,” “bottom,” and “vers” were never meant to be social identities or personality types. They were supposed to be simple communication tools — a quick way to …
The Power of Screaming ‘I’m a Power Bottom Lesbian’ as a Black Gay Man Read More
By Victor Umeh & Daniel Nkado. Content warning: This article discusses interpersonal harm in Black queer spaces, including manipulation, femophobia, HIV stigma, and related dynamics. Some readers may find this …
19 Unflattering Behaviours Seen in Black Queer Spaces—with Examples Read More
By Daniel Nkado for dnbstories.com. Trigger note: This article discusses sexual rejection and stigma. If any section feels distressing, consider pausing and reaching out to a trusted person or professional …
How to Handle Sexual Rejection as a Gay Man: A Practical Framework Read More