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Sex is supposed to be a moment of connection—where you are fully in your body, fully feeling rather than thinking. But sometimes, especially under pressure, your mind flips into “observer …
Why Many Black Gay Men Struggle With Spectatoring During Sex Read More
⚠️ Content Note: This article addresses erectile dysfunction, stigma, and mental health in gay men. Sensitive themes are discussed—please proceed with care. Erectile dysfunction (ED)—difficulty getting or keeping an erection …
How Internalised Stigma Fuels Erectile Issues in Black Gay Men Read More
On dating apps, at parties, and inside queer community spaces, Black gay men frequently encounter racialised fetishisation—the experience of being approached through stereotypes rather than being met as a full …
Want to Date Black Gay Men Without Fetishising Them? Here’s How Read More
Malik’s phone lit up with messages the way it always did—fire emojis, quick compliments, the same shorthand that reduced him to a silhouette. He had just posted a photo from …
Trade vs. Thinker: The Cost of Valuing Black Bodies Over Black Minds Read More
By Victor Umeh & Daniel Nkado. Content warning: This article discusses interpersonal harm in Black queer spaces, including manipulation, femophobia, HIV stigma, and related dynamics. Some readers may find this …
19 Unflattering Behaviours Seen in Black Queer Spaces—with Examples Read More
By Daniel Nkado for dnbstories.com. Trigger note: This article discusses sexual rejection and stigma. If any section feels distressing, consider pausing and reaching out to a trusted person or professional …
How to Handle Sexual Rejection as a Gay Man: A Practical Framework Read More
By Daniel Nkado. For many Black gay men, internalised shame arrives quietly—through a barber’s sidelong glance, a preacher’s pause, or the sudden hush at family gatherings—when you walk into a …
Overcoming Internalised Shame as a Black Gay Man—A Research-Backed Guide Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Finding a long-term romantic partner presents difficulties for most people today. However, for gay and bisexual men, these challenges are compounded by barriers that extend beyond the …
Why gay dating feels impossible today: 6 science-backed reasons Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Ageing is a universal experience, but how we navigate it can vary dramatically based on our identities and societal expectations. Have you ever wondered why some men …
How Straight and Gay Men Age Differently: A Cultural Exploration Read More
by DNB editorial team. As Griff croons in her haunting track Earl Grey Tea: “You’re so scared you’re aging faster / So you drink Earl Grey tea ’cause you heard …
Why gay men fear ageing — And how we can rewrite the story 🖤❤️ Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Many gay men describe feeling a different kind of fatigue — a deep, persistent exhaustion that does not come from doing more work. It’s more like being …
Queer Burnout is real: How minority stress leaves gay men exhausted Read More