African and Black Queer Experience and Public Education
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For many Black gay men, internalised shame arrives quietly—through a barber’s sidelong glance, a preacher’s pause, or the sudden hush at family gatherings—when you walk into a space. Those small …
Overcoming Internalised Shame as a Black Gay Man—A Research-Informed Guide Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Finding a long-term romantic partner presents difficulties for most people today. However, for gay and bisexual men, these challenges are compounded by barriers that extend beyond the …
Why gay dating feels impossible today: 6 science-backed reasons Read More
As part of our commitment to maintaining editorial standards, this article was updated on 23 February 2026 to reflect newer information and recommendations on managing bottoming pain and tension. Note …
Bottoming Pain in Gay Men: Understanding ‘Pelvic Armouring’ and Causes Read More
By Daniel Nkado. It was October 2012. I was barely 20. I travelled to Umuahia to meet a man I had met on Manjam. Manjam was what Grindr is today—a …
From Sandal to Scandal: The Origin and Dark Evolution of ‘Kito’ Read More
By Golden Madu and Daniel Nkado Content warning: This article contains descriptions of physical violence, sexual assault, extortion, and homophobic hate crimes. Reader discretion advised. “He seemed so genuine. We …
Kito Nightmare: 3 Nigerian Gay Men Recount Dating-App Ordeals Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Ageing is a universal experience, but how we navigate it can vary dramatically based on our identities and societal expectations. Have you ever wondered why some men …
How Straight and Gay Men Age Differently: A Cultural Exploration Read More
By Great Maxwell. Warning: This piece contains accounts of forced religious “deliverance,” spiritual coercion, and sexual abuse that may be triggering. If you are in an unsafe situation, currently distressed, …
Coming out as gay in Nigeria: Surviving religious conversion therapy Read More
Many gay men describe feeling a different kind of fatigue — a deep, persistent exhaustion that does not come from doing more work. It can feel more like being drained …
Queer Burnout: How Minority Stress Leaves Gay Men Exhausted Read More
One commonly searched question that has continued to shock data experts is: “Is my husband gay?” The phenomenon is significant because it reveals how anonymity allows people to voice high-stakes …
Is my husband gay? Why millions of women still search this online Read More
By Daniel Nkado. “DL” stands for “down-low,” a term describing men—often Black or Latino men—who publicly present as straight but privately engage in same-sex relationships. Originating as an African-American slang …
DL Posing: How some gay men monetise down‑low identity for gain Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Gay men and the concept of defensive masculinity Many gay men learn early in life through teasing and societal pressure that being “feminine” invites shame. So they …
Masc4Masc: Why many gay men worship ‘macho’ men 💪🏾 Read More
Note: This article is offered for education and reflection, not as medical advice. If you are experiencing severe or persistent pain or discomfort that interfere with daily life, please reach …
Control-Relax Method: A Guide For Reducing Bottoming Pain in Men Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Why do some gay men command the runway in heels while others play football like the game was designed for them? Anyone who’s met a range of …
Why some gay men act ‘masc’ or ‘fem’ — Science explains Read More
Nigerian celebrity weddings in 2025 were nothing short of spectacular. From breathtaking decor to A-list guest appearances, this year gave fans some of the most talked-about love stories in Nigerian …
Best Nigerian Celebrity Weddings of 2025 – Ranked Read More
Note To Readers:This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical assessment. Anal pain and muscle tightening can have multiple causes, and only a …
Black Gay Men, Stop Performative Clenching: ‘Tight Hole’ is a Myth Read More
If you’ve been searching for popular Nigerians with Guinness World Records (GWR), you’re in the right place. Over the years, Nigerians have continued to put the country on the global …
8 Nigerians with Guinness World Records to date Read More
For many young gay men today, accepting themselves or even coming out is only the beginning. Beyond family and societal acceptance, there’s another world to navigate: the gay community itself. …
Gay Men and the Pressure of Managing Reputation Within the Community Read More
Who is Angela Deem, aka ‘Angela Obey Who?’ Angela Deem is an ex-cast member of the TLC reality show “90 Day Fiancé”. She is known for her refusal to vow …
Where is Angela Deem, aka ‘Angela Obey Who’, right now? Read More
One troubling pattern I’ve observed about modern gay culture is the gendering of sex roles—treating “top” and “bottom” as if they’re fixed gender identities rather than fluid sexual preferences. And …
Dear Gay Men in 2025: You are not a Top, or a Bottom, or a Label Read More
Taylor Swift has dated several high-profile men, and many of her relationships have inspired her music. Swift has over the course of her career garnered a reputation (no pun intended) …
All Taylor Swift’s boyfriends and the songs they inspired Read More
by Daniel Nkado Surviving Nigeria as a gay person is probably one of the toughest things to do in the world. Even before the imprisonment law was passed, gay people …
The one time I attended a ‘gay wedding’ in Nigeria and almost died Read More
The technology landscape is always changing, and new trends keep emerging. It’s essential to stay updated with the latest industry developments and job market trends to remain competitive in the …
12 high-demand IT skills that guarantee jobs in the UK right now Read More
If you suspect that you have been blocked by someone on WhatsApp, there are a few indicators you can look out for. However, keep in mind that these signs are …
The best way to know if someone blocks you on Whatsapp Read More
Hunter Biden was born Robert Hunter Biden on February 4, 1970, in Wilmington, Delaware, United States to his parents: Joe Biden (father) and Neileia Biden (mother). Hunter Biden is 53 …
Story of Hunter Biden’s marriages and relationships Read More
Disney has a rich history of creating inspiring and memorable songs. Each song carries its own unique message and has touched the hearts of audiences around the world. Here are …
The most inspirational Disney songs ranked from 1 to 10 Read More
But in Africa, these snails are a pricey delicacy! A recent detection of giant African land snails also known as GALS or Achatina achatina in a part of South Florida …
Giant African snails can spread meningitis, American authorities warn Read More
New Balance is generally considered a reputable and respected brand in the sporting goods industry. The company has a long history and is known for producing high-quality athletic footwear, apparel, …
Is New Balance a good shoe brand? Read More
Yes, summer depression is a real phenomenon. It is sometimes known as summer-onset seasonal affective disorder (SAD). While most people associate seasonal affective disorder with the winter months, some individuals …
Is summer depression a real thing? Read More
While there are potential benefits and advancements associated with artificial intelligence (AI), it is also important to consider certain concerns and potential risks. Here are some reasons why people may …
7 reasons we should be afraid of AI Read More
Is burning 1000 calories a day even possible? Burning 1000 calories per day through physical activity is certainly possible, but it largely depends on the intensity, duration, and type of …
How to burn 1000 calories a day: A guide Read More
What’s so special about summer? Summer is a season that brings many joys and delights. It’s a season that offers a unique blend of relaxation, exploration, and enjoyment of the …
10 fun things to do in London this summer Read More
by Daniel Nkado Misconceptions and ignorance drive homophobia in Africa. This is why the more educated and informed people are, the less homophobic they become. Here are 5 reasons that …
5 reasons you are clueless if you support anti-gay laws in Africa Read More
Burning food has remained a major concern in cooking for many years. This issue has often influenced people’s choices in the purchase of cookware. 10 ways to avoid burning food …
10 ways to avoid burning food in a pot Read More
Controversial Nigerian evangelist, Funmilayo Adebayo, otherwise known as “Mummy G.O” has revealed the real voice behind the popular Big Brother Naija (BBNaija) reality TV show. The preacher who has garnered …
Mummy G.O reveals the real voice behind Big Brother Naija show (Video) Read More
Surulere is a well-known and densely inhabited neighbourhood on the Lagos Mainland. Known for its commercial activity, Surulere is filled with fun-loving residents. Whether you are new in town or …
Top 12 hangout spots in Surulere and their locations Read More
Summoning the courage to ask for a loan from a friend or close associate can be a daunting experience, especially if borrowing is not your thing. There are people who …
10 reasons people don’t lend you money when you ask Read More
Agbada is a traditional Nigerian garment consisting of an open-stitched flowing robe with broad sleeves worn over an inner outfit. Agbada is usually a three-piece outfit that includes a pair …
10 gorgeous Agbada styles for Nigerian men [2022] Read More
Nigerian men are a special breed of men, mostly in a good way. The trend of what is now known as the “Nigerian man fantasy” which loosely translates to the …
6 sure ways to know a Nigerian man really loves you Read More
Written by Daniel Nkado In a rather hilarious life twist, one of the biggest thrills of our childhood appears to be the excitement of growing into adulthood. For some of …
5 scary things about adulthood that nobody ever told you Read More
Whether a new relationship or one that has lasted, cute pet names can work magic in your affair. If you are looking for cute names to call your girlfriend, then …
50 cute names to call your Nigerian girlfriend Read More
A magistrate court in Ile-Ife, Osun State, has remanded a woman named Nifemi Ajayi for allegedly biting her neighbour’s scrotum. According to reports from local media, as gathered by DNB …
Nigerian woman dragged to court for biting neighbour’s scrotum Read More
It is a known fact that the Nigerian film industry a.k.a Nollywood is full of good-looking men. But while some of these Nollywood actors look undeniably attractive, some of them …
Top 10 most handsome Nollywood actors under 40 – No 1 will make you drool Read More
A Nigerian woman identified simply as Mama Purity who was caught sleeping with her married neighbor has said she engaged in the affair because she discovered the neighbour is sweeter …
He is sweeter than my husband – Woman caught cheating confesses Read More
A Nigerian fisherman from Southern Nigerian is currently trending on social media after he caught a rare blue marlin fish reportedly worth around $2.6 million and instead ate it with …
Nigerian man caught a blue marlin fish reportedly worth $2.6 million and ate it with friends Read More
Who is Omah Lay? Omah Lay is a Nigerian singer and songwriter known for the hit songs “You” and “Bad Influence”. Omah Lay is famous for the degree of emotional …
Full biography of Nigerian singer Omah Lay and other facts about him Read More
Beauty is something that has always been associated with TV shows. An unspoken criterion for the selection of reality TV faces is actually physical appearance and the Big Brother Naija …
Top 10 most beautiful BBNaija housemates so far Read More
Who is Ray Emodi? Ray Emodi is a Nigerian actor, musician and film producer who has appeared in over 200 Nigerian movies and counting. He is known for his foreign-sounding …
Nollywood actor Ray Emodi’s full biography and facts Read More
If you have been active on social media these past few years, there is a high possibility you might have come across the screenshot of a news report claiming that …
The truth about a dog that travelled 100 km to bite its owner Read More
Nollywood actor Mike Godson has accused famous blogger Linda Ikeji of being the reason he is still unmarried. Mike Godson said Linda Ikeji once ran an unverified story about him …
Linda Ikeji is the reason I’m not yet married, says Nollywood actor Mike Godson Read More
Real-life story shared by Ms Grace, penned down by Daniel Nkado. Some aspects of this story have been edited to reflect the content standards of DNB Stories! Austin and I …
How I discovered my husband is GAY during the coronavirus lockdown Read More
Shared by Tobenna To be honest, being a fine boy in Nigeria can be tough. It has more cons than pros. The pros are few and far-fetched. Unfamiliar women can …
The Pain of Being a Fine Boy in Nigeria Read More
by Gloria Ezeh Detty December is all about the shows and concerts and the parties. Detty December is a way to cool off after the stress of the year. No …
What does Detty December mean to you? Read More
Written by Daniel Nkado. A sugar mummy is an older woman who dates a younger person that she spends money on. This younger person may be male or female (if the …
My experience with a sugar mummy in Lagos Read More
by Staff writer After Stephen Ringo’s wife left him because he was too fat for sex, he took the radical decision to do something about his weight. Now after a …
Dumped by his wife for being too fat, look at him now Read More
by Staff writer Ekuke is a name used to refer to a group of local dog breeds found in Nigeria and other parts of Africa. Because of their striking features, …
All about the Nigerian local dog breeds called Ekuke or Bingo Read More
by Staff writer According to the Bible, a woman’s pain during childbirth is part of the suffering brought into the world through sin. As a direct result of the original …
If God punished Eve with painful childbirth, why do animals feel pain too? Read More
by Staff writer Living alone in a tiny house just outside the Savai’i village of Alaolemativa, Hazy Pau Talauati is a Samoan man who dresses and lives as a woman. …
Fa’afafine – The men brought up as women in Samoa Read More
by Mr Steve B. 11 May 2016:Hello everyone.This is very hard for me to share but I need to do it. I have been burying my head in the sand …
‘I’m gay, married and depressed’ Read More
The Science of Penis Size: The Truth About Race, Evolution and Genetics This article explores the scientific reality behind penis size stereotypes. By analysing clinician-measured data from global studies, we …
Do Black Men Really Have Bigger Penises? Read More
The viral story of a Florida predator named Harry Harrington and two unfortunate thieves is a modern urban legend. Here is the truth behind the hoax. It reads like the …
Fact Check: Did ‘The Wolfman’ Really Assault Two Burglars in Florida? Read More