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Cynthia Obi-Uchendu who is married to popular media personality, Ebuka Obi-Uchendu, has shared what she feels about open marriages. Cynthia Obi-Uchendu tweeted this afternoon that “there is nothing wrong with …
‘Nothing wrong with an open marriage’ – Ebuka Obi-Uchendu’s wife Read More
The massive ‘Black Lives Matter’ protests that rocked the world following the murder of Minneapolis man George Floyd has continued to inspire renewed conversations about race, including in religious settings …
UK church replaces Last Supper painting with ‘Black Jesus’ Read More
The disturbing news of a man who allegedly stabbed his girlfriend in Lekki and committed suicide afterwards came as a huge shock to Nigerians last week. 39-year-old Chris Ndukwe allegedly …
Fresh details emerge about dead couple – Chris Ndukwe and Olamide Alli Read More
Following the earlier disagreement with his former political party APC, Edo State Governor, Godwin Obaseki, has formally joined the People’s Democratic Party (PDP). In confirmation of his formal defection to …
Obaseki joins PDP, renames Oshiomole Street after Bukola Saraki Read More
A Nigerian politician named Daniel Ukpera has been heavily criticized for donating ropes to residents of his community. Mr Ukpera donated strands of yellow ropes to residents of the Guma …
Meet Daniel Ukpera – Nigerian politician that donated ropes to his community Read More
The owner and Chief Executive Officer of Tonimas Group of Companies, Chief Anthony Enukeme, is dead. Tonimas Group is a multi-million naira manufacturing conglomerate involved in the production of a …
CEO of Tonimas Group Sir Anthony Enukeme is dead Read More
Nigerian actor and TV presenter Uti Nwachukwu who was recently accused of rape by one Kambili Korie has released a statement refuting the rape allegation. In the statement Uti posted, …
Uti Nwachukwu denies rape accusation, threatens legal action Read More
A Nigerian woman identified as Kambili Korie on Twitter has in a series of tweets levelled serious accusations of rape and assault on popular TV presenter and actor Uti Nwachukwu. …
‘Uti is bisexual’ – Nigerian lady accuses Uti Nwachukwu of rape Read More
by Staff writer A minister for suicide prevention has been appointed in England by the prime minister as the government hosts the first ever global mental health summit. Theresa May …
UK appoints a minister for suicide prevention Read More
by Staff writer Newly crowned Miss Ukraine Veronika Didusenko has been stripped of her title for lying about her personal life on her application. The 23-year-old, who was commemorating her …
Newly crowned Miss Ukraine stripped of her crown for lying Read More
by Staff writer Ekuke is a name used to refer to a group of local dog breeds found in Nigeria and other parts of Africa. Because of their striking features, …
All about the Nigerian local dog breeds called Ekuke or Bingo Read More
by Staff writer According to a new data from the Office for National Statistics, 1.36 million people are currently unemployed in the UK. But the agency says this figure is …
1.36 million people in the UK do not have jobs Read More
by Miz Tee DNB ladies get in here! Two African men serving some real hot sauce ??? … who you picking? Ebuka or Jidenna? 1. Ebuka 2. Jidenna Who is …
Ebuka or Jidenna – Who is HOTTER? Read More
by Staff writer A Nigerian student studying in the UK took her own life in Cardiff hotel room just days after a visit home for Mother’s Day. Omojola Ogundipe, 20, …
Nigerian student kills herself in her hotel room in the UK Read More
by Staff writer With most flagship devices selling way above your income, buying UK-used phones may just be your only option of touching that shiny new wonder from your favourite …
Top facts about buying UK-used phones in Nigeria Read More
by Staff writer A British man has caught the world’s “most dangerous” type of gonorrhea. Though the man had a regular partner in the UK, he contracted the super-infection after …
UK man contracts the “most dangerous” type of gonorrhea in the world Read More
by Staff writer “Someone like You” is a song by British singer Adele. It was written by Adele and Dan Wilson for her second studio album, 21. It is the …
Adele’s “Someone like You” is second most downloaded UK song Read More
by Staff writer According to UK government’s advice on foreign travel for the year 2018, UK citizens are warned not to visit the following places in Nigeria: 1. Borno State …
6 places in Nigeria UK citizens are advised not to travel to in 2018 Read More
by Staff writer Weeks ago, Nigerians went crazy with excitement when it was hinted that Funke Akindele has starred in upcoming Marvel’s Infinity War as a resident of the fictional …
Sope Aluko, the real Nigerian actress in Marvel’s Black Panther Read More
by Staff writer A record number of people came out as gay, lesbian or bisexual last year, with the figure hitting one million for the first time on record, new …
One in 20 people in UK say they are lesbian, gay or bisexual Read More
Nigerians in the UK have joined in the #OneVoiceNigeria protest. A group of Nigerians were spotted at the Nigeria High Commission in the UK, demanding for a 5-minute speech from …
Nigerians in the UK join protest, demand to speak with Buhari Read More
Just a few days after the United States under the administration of Donald Trump put a ban on immigrants from seven Muslim-majority countries, the United Kingdom has also deported 83 …
UK deports 83 Nigerians back to Lagos Read More
Chemsex is often discussed as though it begins with an isolated personal decision: a queer man encounters a drug, enjoys the sexual effects and chooses to continue using it. That …
Repeated Fetishisation: How Some Older White Queer Men Draw Black Queer Men into Chemsex Read More
Narcissistic Cruelty, Gossip, Shame, and Control Malignant narcissistic behaviour describes a severe pattern of destructive personality traits where narcissistic entitlement combines with cruelty, manipulation, paranoia, revenge, and disregard for the …
Malignant Narcissistic Behaviour and Cruelty in Small Social Groups Read More
Navigating modern relationship dynamics, masculinity, money, and power As more African women become financially independent, highly educated, professionally visible, and socially influential, romantic relationships are being forced to confront an …
Why Some African Men Avoid Successful Women Read More
What Does “Odogwu” Mean? The meaning of Odogwu goes far beyond a simple English translation. In Igbo culture, Odogwu refers to a person of great strength, courage, achievement, and social …
The Meaning of ‘Odogwu’ in Igbo Culture: From Warriors to Modern Champions Read More
Relocating to a new country often comes with one comforting expectation: that fellow Africans will become an automatic support system. Many people imagine that once they arrive in London, New …
Why Some Africans Abroad Avoid Other Africans Read More
Social and Emotional Realism in Fiction Writing Social and emotional realism in fiction writing means making the world of the story feel socially believable and emotionally true, even when the …
What is Social and Emotional Realism in Fiction Writing? Read More
For Black Queer Men, Sex Is Not Always Just Sex When we say some DL Black queer men “chase sex more,” the statement can easily become careless, moralising, or unfair. …
Why Some DL Black Queer Men May Chase Sex More Read More
Introduction: You Can Have 100 Friends and Still Be Alone You can have 100 friends—and still feel completely alone. You can have 100 friends and still have nobody to call …
You Don’t Need 100 Friends: The 4 Types of Support Every Black Queer Man Needs Read More
The Brain Is Not Always Chasing Sex — Sometimes It Is Chasing Recognition Apart from the physical sensation of pleasure, sex, at its deepest level, sex can also carry an …
Why Sex Means So Much for Many Black Queer Men Read More
A Sexual Act Is Not a Full Identity There is a common mistake people make when discussing sexuality. They treat a sexual act as if it were the same thing …
Why Being Gay and Having Sex With Men Are Not the Same Thing Read More
While some men are perceived as embodying society’s classic ideals of manhood — tall, muscular, athletic, affluent, or socially dominant — these standards can feel unattainable to many others. The …
How White Queer Culture Uses Masculinity to Control Black Queer Men Read More
In close-knit Black queer communities, triangulation refers to a manipulative strategy where a person avoids resolving an issue directly with someone and instead pulls a third party—or several third parties—into …
The Macos Threesome or Staged-Affection Triangulation in Black Queer Spaces Read More
Editor’s Note: This article discusses gossip, relational aggression, social-control manipulation, exclusion, and reputational harm in Black queer communities, with particular attention to Black queer friendship networks. It focuses on observed …
Triangulation—A Black Queer Manipulator’s Ultimate Tool for Destroying Friendships Read More
Editor’s note: All names used in this essay are pseudonyms. Some identifying details have been adjusted to protect privacy while preserving the emotional and analytical truth of my experience. Part …
They Left & I Just Started Crying: How I Survived Black Queer Social Cruelty Read More
Intro: When the Crowd Feels Safer Than One Person I used to wonder why so many UK Black queer people seemed to prefer group chills to visiting someone privately. Even …
Why Some Black Queer Men Prefer Group Chills & Orgies to One-to-One Meetings Read More
Borrowing the Cool, but Still Preserving the Hierarchy When members of racially dominant groups, especially white queer or mainstream cultural spaces, take elements from Black queer culture—slang, fashion, performance, or …
Eating the Other: How White Desire Consumes Black Queer Bodies Read More
Choosing ‘Easy to Be Around’ Over Honest Feeling In a world that often demands Black queer men be palatable, agreeable, and emotionally accommodating in order to be accepted, respected, or …
5 Qualities That Predict Safer Black Queer Relationships Read More
Black Queer Men Carry the Fight Backwards For Black queer men who have been psychologically conditioned this way, cruelty may feel relieving in the moment. This feeling of relief is …
The Distraction Trap: How Group Cruelty Keeps Black Queer Men Out of Power Read More
The Social Training of Black Queer Desire Imagine realising that your community’s unwritten rules about who is desirable, acceptable, or “too much” were never truly its own. In British Black …
Controlled & Consumed: How White Power Governs Black Queer Life Read More
Intro: Queer Desire is Not Entirely a Private Matter In queer culture, desire is often treated as a private, individualised feeling. Many queer men understand attraction as mere “chemistry” between …
Queer Desirability Economics: Why Queer Men Keep Chasing the Same Type Read More
Living in a Metallised World Demands Meta-Skills Modern Western life is increasingly metallised—structured by hard systems, formal procedures, platforms, compliance metrics, and abstract rules that govern interaction at a distance. …
Why Queer Men Need Frameworks to Survive Western Life Read More
When a queer man seeks medical help for sudden erectile dysfunction, physicians almost universally approach it as a physiological issue or simple “performance anxiety.” Because providers rarely ask young men …
Sexual Performance Shaming and Control in Black Queer Encounters Read More
Bottom-Shaming, Masculinity, and Black Gay Men A 2023 study by T. J. A. Winder found that some Black gay men use shaming language—particularly “bottom-shaming,” or mocking the receptive sexual role—to …
How Some Black Gay Men Use Shaming Others to Boost Masculinity Read More
Who is a “Good Man”? A “good man” is not a perfect man. No one is. More simply, a good man is a man anchored by integrity and compassion. That …
Why Are Good Black Gay Men So Hard to Find in the West? Read More
The Anatomy of a Stitched-Up Masculinity Performance Before I begin, not every masculine, discreet, London- or roadman-coded man is abusive. In its original usage, the term mandem simply meant “my …
Tell-Tale Signs of a Manipulative “Mandem” Performer in Gay Relationships Read More
Masculinity as a Socially Conferred Status Many Black gay men will recognise how masculinity can feel less like a secure identity and more like something that must be continuously proven—at …
Masculinity Anchors Model (MAM): Redefining Black Queer Masculinity Read More
When Conflict Avoids Clarity Some conflicts revolve around truth, while others make the truth costly. This distinction sits at the centre of the Masculinity Conflict Framework (MCF). A disagreement may …
Protect Yourself from a Punisher – The Masculinity Conflict Framework Read More
Note To Readers:📢 This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical assessment. Anal pain and muscle tightening can have multiple causes, and only …
Sexual Role Anxiety and Bottoming for Yourself as a Black Gay Man Read More
Meaningless Sex Creates a Cycle of More Meaningless Sex Sexual activity can feel pleasurable in the moment, but it can also leave a person feeling empty or isolated when it …
The Economics of Black Queer Desire: Surviving ‘Connection Scarcity’ Read More
In 2026, the meaning of personal social capital for Black gay men is changing. Building personal influence and social power in the Black queer scene no longer centres on maximum …
Emerging Social Currencies for Black Gay Men in 2026 Read More
1. ✅ What is the Absurdity Reps Method (ARM)? In many gay spaces—including Black queer contexts—shaming and humiliation can quietly become entertainment: a room laughs while someone’s dignity gets turned into …
Absurdity Reps Method: How Gay Men Break Shame in Real Time Read More
Something Has Changed About “Top” and “Bottom” Labels In 2026, the labels “top” and “bottom” have moved beyond simple descriptors for sexual roles or preferences to become social signals that …
Why Softening “I’m a Top” Matters for Black Gay Men in 2026 Read More
“And with social visibility, I don’t have that much need for sexual visibility anymore.”—A Black gay man living in Canada. Humans share a core emotional need to be seen as …
Social vs Sexual Visibility: Why Being Seen Changes Sex for Gay Men Read More
Sexual and romantic rejection is a universal human experience—but for gay and bisexual men already dealing with internalised shame and stigma, it can land like a confirmation of internalised scripts …
QDRF: A Practical Framework for Gay Men to Build Dating Resilience Read More
Part 1: What Is A Chosen Family? Chosen family—also called found family or family of choice—refers to non‑biological relationships that queer people intentionally build for love, support, safety, and belonging. …
Trust Onion Model: A Guide to Building Black Queer Chosen Family Read More
A reflective personal essay on growing up queer in Nigeria, finding hope through Taylor Swift’s music, and learning how dreaming, storytelling, and the power of imagination can shape identity, love’s …
The Hope of It All—Why I Love Taylor Swift Read More
A Calculated Exploitation of Queer Vulnerability Manipulation can happen in any relationship. However, for many Black gay men in the UK or US—particularly in high-pressure environments like London, New York …
Mandem Hypermasculinity & Manipulation: What Black Gay Men Need to Know Read More
Intro: How Shame Drives Compulsive Sex In Black Gay Men Many Black gay men learn early to hide their desire and swallow the pain of being constantly policed, humiliated, and …
The Shame ‘Void’: How Visibility Breaks Compulsive Sex for Black Gay Men Read More