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Malik’s phone lit up with messages the way it always did—fire emojis, quick compliments, the same shorthand that reduced him to a silhouette. He had just posted a photo from …
Trade vs. Thinker: The Cost of Valuing Black Bodies Over Black Minds Read More
By Daniel Nkado for dnbstories.com. In gay culture, “top,” “bottom,” and “vers” were never meant to be social identities or personality types. They were supposed to be simple communication tools …
The Power of Screaming ‘I’m a Power Bottom Lesbian’ as a Black Gay Man Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Dear Brothers, As 2025 comes to an end and we look toward 2026, this message is for my fellow Black queer men—especially those of us who navigate …
Brother to Brother: Chemsex, PnP & HnH Safety for Black Gay Men Read More
By DNB Editors. This article draws on aggregated public data, user reports, and anonymised trend summaries. No individual user information is included. Grindr is more than just a hookup app—it’s …
Grindr Unwrapped 2025: Top/Bottom/Dom—What It Reveals Read More
By Victor Umeh & Daniel Nkado. Content warning: This article discusses interpersonal harm in Black queer spaces, including manipulation, femophobia, HIV stigma, and related dynamics. Some readers may find this …
19 Unflattering Behaviours Seen in Black Queer Spaces—with Examples Read More
By Daniel Nkado. On apps like Grindr, Scruff, or Jack’d, many Black gay and bisexual men notice a distinct pattern: their inboxes fill up faster than those of their peers, …
The ‘BBC’ Fetish and Black Gay Men: How Desire Can Dehumanise Read More
By Daniel Nkado for dnbstories.com. Trigger note: This article discusses sexual rejection and stigma. If any section feels distressing, consider pausing and reaching out to a trusted person or professional …
How to Handle Sexual Rejection as a Gay Man: A Practical Framework Read More
By Daniel Nkado. In queer dating and relationships, labels like top and bottom help people communicate what they enjoy. But when these terms solidify into permanent identities—dictating what someone “should” …
Top vs. Bottom: 8 Ways Rigid Roles Hurt Gay & Bi Men—Why Fluidity Matters Read More
By Daniel Nkado. For many Black gay men, internalised shame arrives quietly—through a barber’s sidelong glance, a preacher’s pause, or the sudden hush at family gatherings—when you walk into a …
Overcoming Internalised Shame as a Black Gay Man—A Research-Backed Guide Read More
By Daniel Nkado. In my Nigerian voice: I knew we were finished the moment I saw the language of the therapist’s office enter gay dating culture. 🙆🏾♂️😊 Terms like gaslighting, …
Gaslighting or Boundaries: Is Therapy Speak Ruining Gay Dating Today? Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Finding a long-term romantic partner presents difficulties for most people today. However, for gay and bisexual men, these challenges are compounded by barriers that extend beyond the …
Why gay dating feels impossible today: 6 science-backed reasons Read More
By Daniel Nkado. For many gay and bisexual men, the desire for receptive anal sex (bottoming) is thwarted by physical pain, panic, tightening or an inability to “relax.” Pelvic pain …
Pelvic Armouring—How it Makes Bottoming Harder for Gay & Bi men Read More
By DNB Editors. On November 10, 2025, the U.S. Supreme Court delivered a quiet but powerful win for marriage equality: the Court declined to hear former Kentucky county clerk Kim …
SCOTUS Upholding Marriage Equality—What It Means For Queer People Read More
By Daniel Nkado. It was October 2012. I was barely 20. I travelled to Umuahia to meet a man I had met on Manjam. Manjam was what Grindr is now—a …
From Sandal to Scandal: The Origin and Dark Evolution of ‘Kito’ Read More
By Golden Madu and Daniel Nkado Content warning: This article contains descriptions of physical violence, sexual assault, extortion, and homophobic hate crimes. Reader discretion advised. “He seemed so genuine. We …
Kito Nightmare: 3 Nigerian Gay Men Recount Dating-App Ordeals Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Ageing is a universal experience, but how we navigate it can vary dramatically based on our identities and societal expectations. Have you ever wondered why some men …
How Straight and Gay Men Age Differently: A Cultural Exploration Read More
Love from the DNB family. For every member of the Black and African queer community—whether you’re in Lagos, Nairobi, Accra, Johannesburg, London, New York, Texas, or anywhere in the world—creativity …
Finding Joy and Healing Through Art—A Love Letter to Black Queer People Read More
by DNB editorial team. As Griff croons in her haunting track Earl Grey Tea: “You’re so scared you’re aging faster / So you drink Earl Grey tea ’cause you heard …
Why gay men fear ageing — And how we can rewrite the story 🖤❤️ Read More
By Great Maxwell. Warning: This piece contains accounts of forced religious “deliverance,” spiritual coercion, and sexual abuse that may be triggering. If you are in an unsafe situation, currently distressed, …
Coming out as gay in Nigeria: Surviving religious conversion therapy Read More
Pretty Boma, born Boma Kalio, is a 25-year-old trans Nigerian woman from Okrika in Rivers State, Nigeria. Her brave journey of self-discovery began early. At just 8 years old, she …
Finding affirming healthcare in Nigeria: A trans woman’s brave story Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Many gay men describe feeling a different kind of fatigue — a deep, persistent exhaustion that does not come from doing more work. It’s more like being …
Queer Burnout is real: How minority stress leaves gay men exhausted Read More
One commonly searched question that has continued to shock data experts is: “Is my husband gay?” The phenomenon is significant because it reveals how anonymity allows people to voice high-stakes …
Is my husband gay? Why millions of women still search this online Read More
In addition to being one of the most-listened-to singers of her time, Taylor Swift also boasts one of the most passionate fanbases in the entertainment world—affectionately known as Swifties. From …
Why Swifties Stay Loyal—Fans share why they love Taylor Swift Read More
By Daniel Nkado. “DL” stands for “down-low,” a term describing men—often Black or Latino men—who publicly present as straight but privately engage in same-sex relationships. Originating as an African-American slang …
DL Posing: How some gay men monetise down‑low identity for gain Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Gay men and the concept of defensive masculinity Many gay men learn early in life through teasing and societal pressure that being “feminine” invites shame. So they …
Masc4Masc: Why many gay men worship ‘macho’ men 💪🏾 Read More
By Daniel Nkado. Why do some gay men command the runway in heels while others play football like the game was designed for them? Anyone who’s met a range of …
Why some gay men act ‘masc’ or ‘fem’ — Science explains Read More
by Daniel Nkado Some songs make you dance. Others make you remember. For millennials, Owl City and Carly Rae Jepsen’s “Good Time” does both — a happy song that somehow …
This Happy Song is so Nostalgic, it Makes Millennials Cry Read More
Nigerian celebrity weddings in 2025 were nothing short of spectacular. From breathtaking decor to A-list guest appearances, this year gave fans some of the most talked-about love stories in Nigerian …
Best Nigerian Celebrity Weddings of 2025 – Ranked Read More
by Daniel Nkado It seems every year — or less — a segment of the Black gay community discovers a new trend to turn into fashion and use as another …
Black Gay Men, Stop Clenching and Relax — ‘Tight Hole’ is a Myth Read More
by Daniel Nkado In the quiet corners of the human heart, where feelings begin and identities take root, few questions stir as much curiosity—and confusion—as this: Can a straight person …
The Big Question: Can A Straight Person Ever Become Gay? Read More
If you’ve been searching for popular Nigerians with Guinness World Records (GWR), you’re in the right place. Over the years, Nigerians have continued to put the country on the global …
8 Nigerians with Guinness World Records to date Read More
By Daniel Nkado. For many young gay men today, accepting themselves or even coming out is only the beginning. Beyond family and societal acceptance, there’s another world to navigate: the …
Gay Men and the Pressure of Managing Reputation Within the Community Read More
Who is Angela Deem, aka ‘Angela Obey Who?’ Angela Deem is a cast member of the TLC reality show “90 Day Fiancé”, who famously asked, “Obey who?” during her wedding …
Where is Angela Deem, aka ‘Angela Obey Who’, right now? Read More
By Daniel Nkado. One troubling pattern I’ve observed about modern gay culture is the gendering of sex roles—treating “top” and “bottom” as if they’re fixed gender identities rather than fluid …
Dear Gay Men in 2025: You are not a Top, or a Bottom, or a Label Read More
by Daniel Nkado In the neon-drenched sprawl of New London, 3020, the air hummed with the electric buzz of hovercars and the synthetic laughter of holograms. The city was a …
Fiction: The Last Top in 3020 Read More
Taylor Swift has dated several high-profile men, and many of her relationships have inspired her music. Swift has over the course of her career garnered a reputation (no pun intended) …
All Taylor Swift’s boyfriends and the songs they inspired Read More
by Daniel Nkado Surviving Nigeria as a gay person is probably one of the toughest things to do in the world. Even before the imprisonment law was passed, gay people …
The one time I attended a ‘gay wedding’ in Nigeria and almost died Read More
The technology landscape is always changing, and new trends keep emerging. It’s essential to stay updated with the latest industry developments and job market trends to remain competitive in the …
12 high-demand IT skills that guarantee jobs in the UK right now Read More
If you suspect that you have been blocked by someone on WhatsApp, there are a few indicators you can look out for. However, keep in mind that these signs are …
The best way to know if someone blocks you on Whatsapp Read More
Hunter Biden was born Robert Hunter Biden on February 4, 1970, in Wilmington, Delaware, United States to his parents: Joe Biden (father) and Neileia Biden (mother). Hunter Biden is 53 …
Story of Hunter Biden’s marriages and relationships Read More
Disney has a rich history of creating inspiring and memorable songs. Each song carries its own unique message and has touched the hearts of audiences around the world. Here are …
The most inspirational Disney songs ranked from 1 to 10 Read More
But in Africa, these snails are a pricey delicacy! A recent detection of giant African land snails also known as GALS or Achatina achatina in a part of South Florida …
Giant African snails can spread meningitis, American authorities warn Read More
New Balance is generally considered a reputable and respected brand in the sporting goods industry. The company has a long history and is known for producing high-quality athletic footwear, apparel, …
Is New Balance a good shoe brand? Read More
Yes, summer depression is a real phenomenon. It is sometimes known as summer-onset seasonal affective disorder (SAD). While most people associate seasonal affective disorder with the winter months, some individuals …
Is summer depression a real thing? Read More
While there are potential benefits and advancements associated with artificial intelligence (AI), it is also important to consider certain concerns and potential risks. Here are some reasons why people may …
7 reasons we should be afraid of AI Read More
Is burning 1000 calories a day even possible? Burning 1000 calories per day through physical activity is certainly possible, but it largely depends on the intensity, duration, and type of …
How to burn 1000 calories a day: A guide Read More
What’s so special about summer? Summer is a season that brings many joys and delights. It’s a season that offers a unique blend of relaxation, exploration, and enjoyment of the …
10 fun things to do in London this summer Read More
by Daniel Nkado Misconceptions and ignorance drive homophobia in Africa. This is why the more educated and informed people are, the less homophobic they become. Here are 5 reasons that …
5 reasons you are clueless if you support anti-gay laws in Africa Read More
Burning food has remained a major concern in cooking for many years. This issue has often influenced people’s choices in the purchase of cookware. 10 ways to avoid burning food …
10 ways to avoid burning food in a pot Read More
Controversial Nigerian evangelist, Funmilayo Adebayo, otherwise known as “Mummy G.O” has revealed the real voice behind the popular Big Brother Naija (BBNaija) reality TV show. The preacher who has garnered …
Mummy G.O reveals the real voice behind Big Brother Naija show (Video) Read More
Surulere is a well-known and densely inhabited neighbourhood on the Lagos Mainland. Known for its commercial activity, Surulere is filled with fun-loving residents. Whether you are new in town or …
Top 12 hangout spots in Surulere and their locations Read More
Summoning the courage to ask for a loan from a friend or close associate can be a daunting experience, especially if borrowing is not your thing. There are people who …
10 reasons people don’t lend you money when you ask Read More
Agbada is a traditional Nigerian garment consisting of an open-stitched flowing robe with broad sleeves worn over an inner outfit. Agbada is usually a three-piece outfit that includes a pair …
10 gorgeous Agbada styles for Nigerian men [2022] Read More
Nigerian men are a special breed of men, mostly in a good way. The trend of what is now known as the “Nigerian man fantasy” which loosely translates to the …
6 sure ways to know a Nigerian man really loves you Read More
Written by Daniel Nkado In a rather hilarious life twist, one of the biggest thrills of our childhood appears to be the excitement of growing into adulthood. For some of …
5 scary things about adulthood that nobody ever told you Read More
Whether a new relationship or one that has lasted, cute pet names can work magic in your affair. If you are looking for cute names to call your girlfriend, then …
50 cute names to call your Nigerian girlfriend Read More
A magistrate court in Ile-Ife, Osun State, has remanded a woman named Nifemi Ajayi for allegedly biting her neighbour’s scrotum. According to reports from local media, as gathered by DNB …
Nigerian woman dragged to court for biting neighbour’s scrotum Read More
It is a known fact that the Nigerian film industry a.k.a Nollywood is full of good-looking men. But while some of these Nollywood actors look undeniably attractive, some of them …
Top 10 most handsome Nollywood actors under 40 – No 1 will make you drool Read More
A Nigerian woman identified simply as Mama Purity who was caught sleeping with her married neighbor has said she engaged in the affair because she discovered the neighbour is sweeter …
He is sweeter than my husband – Woman caught cheating confesses Read More
A Nigerian fisherman from Southern Nigerian is currently trending on social media after he caught a rare blue marlin fish reportedly worth around $2.6 million and instead ate it with …
Nigerian man caught a blue marlin fish reportedly worth $2.6 million and ate it with friends Read More