by Daniel Nkado
The older you get, the more the pressures of marriage dawn on you.
Before I go on, you should know the ideas expressed in this post are personal and only advisory. They are not in any way a stone-set blueprint to a successful marital union. Things hardly work that way in life.
So here are the three major factors that should inform you whether or not you are ready to take the big step:
1. Financial stability
Marriage structures have changed tremendously over the years. There used to be a time things like love and luck and companionship are enough to keep a marriage running even when the finances are not coming but those days are long gone. In this time of Internet and Facebook and Instagram, people are becoming more and more money-minded and there is now no greater force to break a marriage apart than financial stress.
And this is true for both partners because we’ve gone past that time too when one partner’s money is enough to sustain the marriage. Marriage these days are more like business partnerships, and just in that manner, both parties must have something to bring to the table.
2. Mental stability
Many things about marriage will involve you making very strict decisions and sticking by them. And you can’t do so if you are not mentally ready to. Whether it is resisting family’s opinions about your partner, maintaining your fidelity or making decisions about having kids, you have to be psychologically prepared for situations like that.
3. Medical stability
Be prepared to be very open about your medical state and understand how important the doctor’s opinions are to your union. Several medical conditions like sexual deficiencies, genetic factors and certain ailments can easily wreck your marriage so it is best you have all these things checked out before tying the knot.
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Daniel Nkado is a Nigerian writer and journalist.
